Faith & Reason Nexus

DO’S:

• Pray Together: Seek God’s guidance and strength as a couple to handle the conflict and heal.
• Talk Openly & Honestly Together: Communication is key—share your thoughts, feelings, and concerns respectfully.
• Seek Acceptable Compromises: Aim for solutions that both parties can agree on, rather than trying to enforce your will.
• Move Toward Loving Resolution: Focus on resolving the issue with love and understanding, rather than winning the argument.
• “I’m Sorry” – “Please Forgive Me”: Apologize sincerely and ask for forgiveness when needed. This shows humility and a willingness to make amends.
• “I Love You” – “Pray for Me”: Express love even during conflict and pray for each other’s strength and understanding.

DON’TS:

• Bicker: Avoid small, petty arguments that escalate the situation unnecessarily.
• Give In: Avoid passive submission that results in resentment or unaddressed issues.
• Give Up: Don’t walk away from resolving the problem; instead, stay committed to finding a solution.
• Try to Win: Conflict resolution isn’t about victory; it’s about understanding each other and finding common ground.
• Deny There is a Problem: Acknowledge the issue and address it directly rather than ignoring it.
• Keep Score: Don’t bring up past mistakes or keep track of wrongs. Move forward with forgiveness.
• Pout: Avoid sulking or withdrawing emotionally during the conflict.
• Reward or Punish: Don’t use emotional manipulation to get your way.
• Give the “Silent Treatment”: Don’t ignore your spouse or refuse to communicate as a form of punishment.
• Walk Out in the Middle of an Argument: Avoid leaving in the heat of the moment. Stay engaged and calm.
• Intensify the Argument During Resolution: Avoid making the conflict worse or escalating it unintentionally.
• Ridicule, Belittle, or Mock Your Spouse: Treat your spouse with dignity and respect, never mocking their feelings or perspectives.
• Make Light of Your Spouse’s Feelings: Take their emotions seriously and validate them.
• Bring Up the Past: Avoid using old issues to undermine the current conflict. Focus on resolving the present matter.

Good conflict resolution strengthens relationships, builds trust, and encourages mutual respect and understanding.