Faith & Reason Nexus

Every married couple will have disagreements and arguments along the way—it’s just a part of life. Don’t let disagreements turn into “ugly fights.” Resolve disagreements in a Christ-like way. The following acrostic can help.

F – FACE EACH OTHER

• Look each other in the eye as you discuss problems. This is God’s way of dealing with serious problems and differences.
  (Ezekiel 20:35)

I – IGNORE DISTRACTIONS

• Do not bring up “side issues” or other problems. Stay focused on the issue at hand—ignoring it will only cause it to resurface later.

G – GUARD YOUR TONGUE

• Never raise your voice or resort to name-calling.
  (James 3:5-18)

H – HALT THE HISTORY

• Avoid bringing up the past. If you remember past grievances, also remember to extend forgiveness.
  (Ephesians 4:32; Colossians 3:13)

T – TOUCH

• Hold hands while you talk until you’ve prayed together. This simple act is a powerful expression of your love and commitment, reinforcing that no quarrel can break your bond.

S – STAY IN THERE

• Commit to dealing with the conflict until it is resolved. Avoid going to bed without fully and properly addressing the issue.
  (Ephesians 4:26)

By following these principles, couples can navigate disagreements in a way that strengthens their relationship rather than undermining it.